Your narcissist owes you nothing. Their sense of entitlement invariably results in a "what's yours is mine and what's mine is mine" mentality. It also results in a loathing of accountability. They are above that.
This is a bold post asking you to consider your part in the relationship or situation. If you acknowledge your part and take responsibility, you can change. In many ways this is your superpower.
Your partner tells you he or she was in a narcissistically abusive relationship. What to do with this information is of concern to you. As with recovery for the survivor, psychoeducation is a powerful antidote to the hurt. Currently, there is no specific diagnosis for this type of psychological injury but experts in the field are discussing whether Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome should be included in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM).
The term “narcissist” peppers many an everyday conversation as an indication of someone being self-serving, vain or self-important. It is trivial in this context. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM-5) takes us to the dark side. It defines a narcissistic person (with NPD) as someone who has a grandiose sense of self, believes they are special or unique in an ultimate way, lacks empathy, is emotionally exploitative, is deeply envious of others, is entitled and is preoccupied with fantasies of brilliance and unlimited power.